“If I had the chance to do it again……..”

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“You’ll seldom experience regret for anything that you’ve done. It is what you haven’t done that will torment you. The message, therefore, is clear. Do it! Develop an appreciation for the present moment. Seize every second of your life and savor it. Value your present moments. Using them up in any self-defeating ways means you’ve lost them forever.” — Dyer Quotes

The pain of regret is something we all experience from time to time. This pain usually comes after we let go of opportunities or things we know would have made us better people! Sometimes we let go of things unconsciously, other times too, we are unable to delay gratification and let go of it consciously.

Consciously or unconsciously — once we feel it has passed us by, then all we feel is regret.

I happen to be an instructor at an organization where we prepare college graduates for the job market by a three-month intensive program which usually requires dedication of about eight to ten hours daily in order to successfully complete the course.

During the early stages of the program, I had this good student approach me and telling me of her intention to drop out of the program because it is too stressful and that she needs some time to rest and so many other excuses.

I tried talking her out of it and spoke to her about so many things especially concerning the need to learn every day and most importantly stepping out of her comfort zone because growth happens outside one’s comfort zone and that this was a great time to do that. She insisted and ended up dropping out of the program.

Weeks later, I had this same student reaching out that she wants to return and that she realized the program was important and wanted to know if she had the chance of returning to continue from where she left off.
Unfortunately, the nature of the program did not permit that and so I communicated it to her and rather advised she still looks for other opportunities.

After our conversation, I really started thinking about how so many of us are like this young lady in some areas of our lives, where we are unable to see the long term benefit of whatever we are doing and quit halfway just because we want comfort.

Anytime we let go of an opportunity, after a while, it begins to haunt us! Especially realizing that it was for our very good. That is the pain of regret.

One thing I have been learning from other amazing authors like James Clear and Benjamin Hardy, PhD is that I should always make decisions based on the feelings of my future self, not my present self!

Should I make decisions concerning how my future self will think, I will ensure to make sure I don’t cause my future self to feel the pain of regret which is one of the greatest pains one can experience in life.

I will end with the quote below:

“We must all suffer one of two things: The pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment” — Jim Rohn

The choice is yours!

Take Action Now! Don’t let your future self regret the decisions you make today!

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